Relationship stressors can be hard to ignore. You’re trying to stay afloat with your busy schedule, maintaining friendships and taking time for self-care, but all you can think about is the underlying tensions waiting for you at home. Relationship stressors can lead to stress elsewhere in life, which is one of the reasons it’s important to extinguish any heat between you and your partner as early as possible.
Stress in a relationship can really put a damper on all areas of our lives. Relationship stressors come in all shapes and sizes, and sometimes they’re even invisible to the naked eye. This can make it difficult to spot and troubleshoot relationship stressors when they arise. Here are some common stressors that may be creating conflict in your relationship:
1. Poor Communication
Poor communication is among the most common relationship stressors. But the good news is effective communication is something you can master. Finding space to validate each other, whether or not you agree with each other, can create an important initial path into better communication. Listening without judgment, expressing your feelings without casting blame, and trying to put yourself in your partner’s shoes can create extra space in the conflict where understanding can grow. You may not always agree with your partner, but changing the way you communicate can prevent disagreements from becoming fights.
2. Lack of Self-Awareness
It’s natural that when under stress relationships tend to suffer, but even if the relationship is the main source of stress, it’s important that each individual do their own work. YesGurus curates a collection of inspiring self-help content which can help you start to understand yourself a bit more in the context of your relationship. Instead of blaming your partner for what’s going wrong, recognize where you might be struggling yourself. Leading with curiosity, rather than judgment, you can begin to understand how your unmet needs may be causing or amplifying certain areas of stress in the relationship. Gaining this insight can be wildly helpful in the healing process for you as an individual, and in your relationship.
3. Frequent Disagreements
If it seems like you and your partner can’t agree on anything, it might be in your best interest to find a coach who can act as an unbiased conflict resolution source. Finding a coach may be difficult if you and your partner don’t seem to be on the same page, so let YesGurus support you in finding the right relationship coach for you both. Getting the support of YesGurus can help you and your partner find someone mutually beneficial, so you don’t feel weighed down by even more pressure and stress.
4. Unmanaged Individual Stress
These days, it seems like everyone is busier than they have time to be. With work and family stressors as well as personal needs always on the rise, it can be difficult to manage reactivity when the stress becomes too much. When the heat is on, stress defense mechanisms may start to come into the relationship dynamic, which can cause chaos and conflict if unchecked. In other words, we may start to enact denial, regression, repression, sublimation, and other LINKs that keep us acting irrational and distant from our partners. Identifying these defense mechanisms can make it easier to manage them or at least recognize that they’re present and that there may be a better time to address the issues in the relationship when an effective conversation can be had.
If you’re ready to start improving your relationship by keeping stress manageable, let YesGurus connect you with a coach today!
Author: Vanessa Rose
Vanessa is a psychotherapist and writer who enjoys wandering aimlessly around Los Angeles in her free time. With a background in business, she embraces how structure and goals can significantly support the journey into the wild west of psychological exploration. Always curious about self-improvement and emotional expansion, Vanessa also manages her own website which explores the unconscious motivations of eating disorders in women.