I believe myself to be a rather positive person and that I love to laugh and smile a lot. But, I’m also human and that there are instances, particularly those dreadful days after a reduction, at which I sense everywhere from broken to completely depressed.
I’d like to believe I needed to wait until that feeling passed till I might be happy – that I had to struggle with the sadness and depression before somebody or something decided I could be pleased.
Everything I understand today is nothing can be farther from the truth. That’s because you and I have the emotional resourcefulness readily available to us to shift from how we’re feeling to the way we want to feel.
Here are a few of the things I’m doing, right now, to pick up me once I am down, and I want to feel how I want to feel
1.) Compliment myself when I feel I can go to a drawback self-talk. Forcing myself to glow myselfif I have to admit myself for choosing out my dirty underwear off the ground, can make a really profound change. It assists me wade through the psychological mud. Exercise – without neglect exercise, exercising and eating healthy, was in the forefront of my own healing process as it has been essential in helping me cope with a number of the overwhelming pain that accompanies loss. Whenever I need to snap from a”less than ideal emotional state,” I do my very best to eat healthy 80-90% of time (the other 10-20% is for pleasure ) and exercise 5 – 6 days a week doing a combination of weight training and cardiovascular conditioning. Laugh – bliss, as they say, can cure all and it really does wonders to help you make adjustments, very fast. When I need a good laugh, I hop over to Youtube and pull some videos I know will heat my heart with bliss. (Note: I encourage you to create a humorous video playlist on Youtube which means you’ve got easy access to a resources).
4.) Practice self indulgent – conceptually I got it, but it was only when I started doing it that I really experienced the deep psychological change that came when I began to concentrate on messenger every day. Each morning I spend a few minutes reciting as many items as I can consider that I’m thankful for. In case the weather is nice, I will do this outdoors. Nature appears to bring a little emotional energy that is additional . (I share a daily gratitude article on my Instagram accounts . Be sure to follow me there and share what you are thankful for).
5.) Connect with positive people – it’s been scientifically demonstrated that we are all omitting a particular energy area and that we pick up about the power of the others. It has also been said we’re the average of the 5 people we surround ourselves with all the most frequently. Want to feel more happy, more inspired, more fulfilled, and then surround yourself with people who radiate those emotions. As soon as I connect with other people that lift up me, I immediately feel helpless and I bet you will too! (This is, in part, why I created the Moving Forward Group, so that we could surround ourselves with like-minded folks that are trying to heal and move ahead from their reduction ).
I hope this email was useful to you. Give a try to the above five and let me know how they work for you.