What To Change To Make Yourself A Better Person?

Working on yourself can be one of the great challenges of your life. Knowing that you have things to change, and admitting it, can be the start to a wonderful journey of self-discovery that can last a lifetime. Here are a few self help tips to get you started on that journey

The wisest way to kick-start your life and remind yourself of what you cherish is to consider your own mortality. By considering death and the shortness of life, you will determine what you wish to strive for and who you want to spend your time with. This may seem ominous and morbid, but "the wise will lay it to heart."
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Personal development is an intimate and challenging process. To make the search for self-discovery easier, consider starting a journal detailing your goals. This can help you visualize your progress and determine optimal timelines for personal goals. You can also use this journal to detail obstacles and successes along the way – you may find your work is reaping more than you'd imagine.

"I was introduced to this idea a number of years ago.  It immediately appealed to me because it only required a short period of time, I needed structure in my day and I could see that it would make a difference to not only me but also those around me…."

Don't be afraid of change. Many people have a well-founded fear of change. After all, why change something if you are comfortable? The problem is, the world is constantly changing, whether we change with it or not. Instead of seeking out a comfort zone, embrace change. Learn from it and soon you will be able to adapt to anything the world throws at you!
Regardless of where you may find yourself on your quest of transforming into the person you strive to be in terms of your attitudes, behaviors, goals and emotions, remember that you need to continually step outside of your comfort zone. By stepping out of your comfort zone, you are growing as a person and taking risks which will ultimately bring about new experiences important to your success.
Try your best to keep a positive attitude everyday. No matter how bleak things can sometime look or be, keeping positive can help you get through the bad times. You can also get so much more done when you have a positive outlook on the task or the outcome of the tasks.

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Everyone interested in self help should remember to share their thoughts with family and friends that they trust. It is going to be very tough to go through hard times without having anyone to confide in, so you should try and find someone with whom you can discuss your problems.
There are no hard and fast secrets to self-help because each individual is full of their own nuances and problems. Listen to the advice of your friends and especially experts, but realize that what worked for them may not work for you. The same goes for advice you find on the internet.
Keeping positive influences in your life will keep you working harder at your personal development plan. If your best friend is a couch potato who needs a job, a life, and a shower then you are either going to be influenced into the same life style or dragged down because of it. Surround yourself more with successful role models and people who will recognize your commitment to personal development, this will encourage you more and constantly remind you of why and how you want to improve yourself.
You must be willing to see your goals through and attempt even the daily things that you find the hardest to do. Everyone looks at their "to do list" and starts with the easy stuff. Begin with the harder tasks of the day, and you will find yourself growing immensely from this experience.

"WE SPEND SO MUCH TIME focusing on credentials, experience, intelligence, and presentation.  And yet, what is crystal clear to me after 20 years in leadership roles is that those ingredients, while important to success, aren't enough if you've forgotten the fundamentals of being positive, learning from others, being honest and the kind of person people want to work with.
I wrote the book Always and Never: 20 Truths for a Happy Heart, to help center readers on guardrails for living and leading at your best.   When you step outside of these boundaries, your professional and personal life are likely to suffer, holding you back on both fronts.  Read, reflect, and recommit to these Always and Nevers, and realize the kind of future you've been planning for.
#1 – ALWAYS be in charge of your thoughts
What you say and how you feel starts with the way you think. The way you think about everything is in your control. Thoughts are like seeds that need to be watered and nurtured with real knowledge, by real experts and real friends.  A curious, open mind lets in the necessary sunshine.
Never forget that you are in charge of the way you think and a healthy mind requires ongoing fertilization.
#2 – ALWAYS listen before speaking
And then listen some more.  Listen to understand, to demonstrate empathy, and to give the gift of your time and attention.  Listen with your eyes as well as your ears.  This requires slowing down long enough to truly see the person in front of you.  When people want to talk, especially loved ones, they’re rarely seeking answers from you.  They want a sounding board, reassurance, and to connect with someone close to them.
Never dominate the conversation; you have two ears and one mouth for a reason.
#3 – ALWAYS follow the Golden Rule
Buddhism, Judaism, Hinduism, Confucianism, Christianity, and Islam all subscribe to a version of the Golden Rule in their religious teachings.  It’s a simple notion that has endured through the ages.  Treat other’s the way you’d like to be treated.  Kindness, patience, being first to say I’m sorry are the hallmarks of the Golden Rule, and the rewards to you are long-lasting:  inner peace and a life of no regret.
Never let the mean acts of others cause you to break the Golden Rule.
#4 – ALWAYS tell the truth
The truth has everything to do with intent.  When intentions are pure and not mixed with anything else, there is the capacity for truth.  In your daily consumption of information and interactions be aware of sources involved and their potential motives.  People who spread rumors and half-truths are always recruiting new members.
Never gossip or waste time with those who do.
#5 – ALWAYS do as you say you will
Make your commitments a priority, and you’ll earn something invaluable– trust.  The ability to build and keep trust is worth more than anything else you can bring to the table. There is no skill, degree, or talent that can replace it.   Trust is the connective tissue between you and every important relationship in your life: your parents, spouse, boss, coworkers, and friends.
Never undermine trust placed in you by others by not keeping your word.
#6 – ALWAYS place a high value on you
The most important relationship you will ever have is the one you have with yourself.   Take care of your health and finances on a daily basis.   Make your voice the loudest you hear, and the first one you listen to about your hopes and dreams. The compelling force for happiness and success in your life is you and only you.
Never allow others to determine your ability and potential.
#7 – ALWAYS be a student
G. Bernard Shaw is credited with the adage “Youth is wasted on the young.”  Wouldn’t it be great to preserve all the wonders of youth as we gain the wisdom and knowledge that comes long after high school and college?  There is something you can do to maintain your youthful outlook on life—always be a student.  Seek out opportunities where you aren’t the smartest person in the room and learn.  Read books and magazines that broaden your horizons.  Continuing your education in formal and informal ways will keep you young and interesting.
Never think you’re too smart or too old to learn something new.
#8 – ALWAYS separate opinion from fact
Opinions are just that, one person’s view.  They can be wrapped in fear or prejudice.  Opinions can make people as impervious as steel preventing the passage to clear thinking or new possibilities.  Keep your mind free of opinions and focus on acquiring real knowledge.  Be selective about people who hold themselves out as experts. The best knowledge possible is that which comes from your first-hand research and experiences.  Get the facts before you make big purchases, cast your vote, or try to influence others.
Never mistake opinion for fact.
#9 – ALWAYS see the beauty in mistakes
Allow yourself to see mistakes in a whole new light.  Learn from them, and one day, your mistakes will provide material for the stories you tell, your heartfelt advice to others and your expanding book of self-confidence.  Always forgive yourself and others for making mistakes.  Make decisions based on the best information you have and be confident you will be able to handle the outcome.
Never allow mistakes to cause shame or prevent you from trying again.
#10 – ALWAYS share credit for success
If you want to be known as a team player, to be included in big projects and considered for promotion, look for ways to acknowledge others and their contributions. In fact, the group is always smarter than any one person, so why not embrace it and say so.  When you make co-workers feel a part of something, they are inspired to do their best.  People who inspire are literally pushed up the ladder by their peers.
Never allow your desire for praise overrule recognition for the group.
These principles come to you as a loving reminder, moment of reassurance, and reaffirmation of all that is important today and will be for the rest of your life. It comes from someone who has learned through experience these change-proof concepts the hard way.
I hope you'll share them with those you love.  I hope it brings you comfort, joy and all the blessings of a life well-lived."

Understanding anger is important when working on personal development. If one feels anger it is usually a sign that one is perceiving an injustice within one's life or even in the outside world. It's good to identify exactly what injustice is bothering you. Many personal injustices can be corrected by improving your behavior or thinking.
Self discipline is required if you wish to do some work on yourself. You should strive to control your temptations and increase your self control. Beat bad habits like gluttony, jealousy, lust or greed. If you acquire a better sense of discipline, it will be possible for you to keep dangerous vices from damaging your body and soul.
Turn negative thoughts into positive thoughts or affirmations. When you find yourself thinking negatively about a situation stop for a minute and change the negative into a positive. Thinking positively instead of negatively helps you stop focusing on the negative and achieve positive results in all facets of your life.
When it comes to personal development you need to take every opportunity to further your education whether it is self study or formal education. This is important because the wider spectrum of knowledge you have, the more ability you have to earn income and also share the knowledge with others.
Do not talk about doing something and not follow through. If you have an idea about something do not vocalize it until you are ready to do it. This will make you feel better about not getting to a goal that you may have thought about. Keep them realistic.
Self-help tips can never be complete; there is so much to think about. But knowing that you're on the right road can be an enormous comfort. Be gentle but honest with yourself, and you'll start to expand your knowledge of the one person you spend the most time with: yourself.


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